Tell Them How You Really Feel… Now | Anniversary Idea

Tell your wife or husband how you feel, now. Write or re-write your vows to each other for your anniversary.

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When my husband and I got married, it was a very stressful time in our lives. Honestly, it seems that any time after you already have kids is a very stressful time. We married each other with an almost 5 year old, and a 1 year old. We wanted, so badly, to spend the time to plan this magical wedding. Unfortunately, it wasn’t our reality at the time. Between our new house, newish kid, my new job where I worked mostly from sun up to sun down, there was just no time!

One of the things we had discussed the most when planning our wedding was writing our own vows to each other. We felt it would be more personal. We both had a plan on what we would want to say. It would mean so much more to us, writing our vows to each other, rather than having something pre-set for our vows.

With all of the hectic and crazy that piled onto our lives, we barely had time to plan the actual wedding. Let alone write our vows to each other. To top it off, neither of us felt that we would be able to read our vows in front of everyone. We wouldn’t have said what we really wanted to say.

For our first anniversary, we decided it was the perfect time. It was time to do what we hadn’t been able to a year ago. Write our vows to each other!

We thought, if we write our vows to each other now, we would be able to share them with each other personally. This seemed much better than in front of a crowd. That method is much more appealing to both of us!

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Making It Happen | Anniversary Idea

The reason I wanted to share this idea is because of the tremendous impact it can have on your marriage. In addition, people change over time. It’s amazing how much one person can change in just a year. Not only can people change generally, relationships and dynamics can change as well. Clearly, the importance of learning each other and your relationship continuously is so important!

Additionally, so many people find it easier to write how they feel, contrary to trying to say it out loud.

What I love the most about this idea… it costs no more than a piece of paper and some time.

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So, how do you make it happen?

• Try to write it with pen and paper, instead of typing your letter
• Write your letters separately
• Take time to really think about what you want to say
• If you feel it, write it down (don’t overthink it, or it won’t feel as personal)
• Plan ahead, don’t make it a last minute decision
• Really dig deep to help put your feelings into words
• Don’t forget the little things
• Add some humor (if you’re anything like my husband and I, it makes it that much better)
• Forget what you would have said at your wedding, and write about the present
• If it almost makes you cry when you think about it, you should probably write it down
• Keep notes of ideas you come up with, you can add them later if you’re busy at the moment

This doesn’t have to be hard, and it shouldn’t be! This should be fun, personal, and maybe emotional… but not hard.

You also don’t have to just use paper if you don’t want to. There are some beautiful options for Vow Books that will stand up to time if you want to hold on to these.

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Making It Special | Anniversary Idea

You can simply just exchange the letters, the idea and effort is wonderful enough. On the other hand, if you would like to make this more special I have provided a few ideas to make this more than just a letter exchange.

• Read your vows to each other
• Read them or exchange them at a place that means something to you both (example: where you got engaged)
• Exchange them at a candle lit dinner with just the two of you
• Take a trip (day trip or longer) to somewhere you both enjoy and exchange them there
• Leave it somewhere that your partner will find it with their favorite snack/treat/flowers

Make it your own, and remember it doesn’t have to be something big. The point here is sentiment, not extravagance.

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